Our future Hubbies,
Yes! We have come again! We write not to overwhelm you with words, but just to express our fears, our hopes, our expectations and the things that bug our minds and hearts. Please do not fear when we mention expectations. They are not burdensome, we promise. Let’s start by saying that we love you, we long to support you and we are working towards being helpers that will fit you like your perfect shoe size. We in no way, look forward to meeting Mr perfect and we definitely don’t expect you to register in a gym class to obtain six-pack abs and some huge muscles just to woo and win us or be good enough for us (although that will be very good). *teeth out* We don’t eagerly await some hummer-riding, sweet-talking, dollar-spraying TDH dude to ride along in order for us to be swept off our feet although if you happen to come along with some other requirements on check, we just might consider, might being the keyword! We however ain’t out for all those. We crave that you understand what it means to be fathers and better still husbands. We crave for husbands that long and walk towards being like Jesus. We crave for husbands that do not view our femininity as stupidity. We crave for husbands that are filled with the Holy Ghost because we understand that the anointing flows from the top. Sounds different from the normal right? Yeah. We long for not just the normal but for the super-normal. We are not just cut out for the normal and we know it. We crave for husbands that are ‘worded’ and full of the anointing. Going on in life, we have been discouraged because of what we have seen. However, we chose not to give up on you. After all, Love doesn’t give up easily right? Definitely! We have seen the so called ‘Christian men’ batter their wives emotionally and even worse physically. We have seen husbands that treat their wives as doormats all because a man is the head of the woman and wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. We long for husbands that understand our nature, are sensitive to our needs and do not trample on our feelings. We long for men that will cleave to us and not see us as some separate entity after 30 years of marriage. We long for husbands that do not abuse their power as our head. We long for husbands that will be one with us in spirit and soul. By the way, we plan to be Akara providers so that our Children can at least, boast of Bread and Akara as food. We long to submit to your authority as the head and fuel your ‘ego’. We intend to make you feel like the head of the home. We long to place you on top, which is where you belong. We never ever desire to contest your headship. We just hope that in the process of doing all these, you do not see it as an opportunity to treat us like second-class citizens and take us for granted. We hope and we trust that you will be fathers that will love, cherish your girls and be their first love (well after Jesus though). Are we asking for too much? We hope not! We are learning how to be virtuous, so that you are praised at the ‘city gate’ for having us as wives. We are praying for you night and day. We hope these things do not seem far-reaching. We understand that Fatherhood and ‘Husbandhood’ is hard work so we thought to write that you may know and begin to prepare ahead of time. Who are we to tell you your duties anyway? We pray that in all, God will teach you and endow you with wisdom to run our homes. We also can’t wait for you, our unwrapped parcels to arrive but till then, we shall write you more and more letters and hopefully, some love letters too 🙂
Your future wives.
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